SH and I need a hobby. We each have our own: I like to read and cook and garden; SH likes to sing and drink beer and go out. Unfortunately, there is not much overlap between our hobbies. We both like to eat, so that works. But you can't eat all day long. We like to watch movies, but again, not an all the time activity. We need something to do together that's not just sitting.
We camped and fished when I was a kid.
We discovered we like to "play tennis" as we like to call it, although the casual observer would notice that what we do has little relation to the sport that one sees played on television. "Tennis" is not something we can do in Wisconsin in the winter unless we are willing to spend a lot of money to join a tennis club and pay court fees. Which I am not. Because I am a cheap gold-digger.
So what can we do? SH is dead set against salsa dancing because he doesn't like the music. I am not particularly interested in learning how to restore a '65 Corvair or going to wine-tastings (although we did go to a distillery this weekend and it was really interesting). I suggested volunteering with Habitat for Humanity, which SH would like to do, but -- not something we can do in the winter.
Civil War re-enactment? Nah. Yeah, I know I've slipped into a nasty "I don't have a job and my husband is away most of the time so why should I bathe" habit, but re-enactment requires a level of authenticity that interests me not, although SH and I are both interested in history.
Hiking? Nope (you know how lazy I am) and not a winter option, at least not for moi. I'm cold enough in my house, thank you.
Rosemaling? Too passive.
Cooking classes? We're already pretty good cooks.
Helping with the youth group at church? Too much commitment.
The real solution, of course, is kids, but that is not in the cards for us. If you have children, you don't have time for anything else and in 20 years, you feel as if you've accomplished something.