Tuesday, June 07, 2011
Marriage 301, Lecture 326: Depends on who's in charge
SH: Wow. The tub is dirty.
Me: Yeah. I didn't clean it last week because you were out of town and it didn't look that bad. Plus I hate scrubbing the tub. It's the second worst chore after washing the kitchen floor.
SH: I guess it does make a difference when you clean it.* I can really tell when you don't.
Me: I had forgotten how dirty it can get.**
SH: You cleaned the tub.
SH: Because it was bothering me?
Me: No. Because it was grossing me out. Besides, I thought you didn't care if the tub is clean.
SH: I don't care if I am the one in charge of cleaning it. But if someone else is - well, there are standards to be maintained.
* SH was not as focused on housecleaning as I am when he was living alone. He cleaned his apartment before I would visit and he is not a slob, so it never got gross, but he doesn't see the need to clean a tub weekly.
** Apparently, the tipping point for a tub is nine days plus one day of barefoot lawnmowing.
*** My cousin Suzanne tells the story of a woman she knows who grew up in a wealthy home with maids. This woman had never cleaned a bathroom in her life. She got married and moved into an apartment with her husband. After they had been there three weeks, she called the building manager in a panic - there was something wrong with the bathtub. The manager came up to look.
It was dirty.
She had never seen a dirty bathtub before.