Sunday, July 22, 2012

Employed at last, #2

I have a few dilemmas now that I've started working. I know my whining will fall on been there, done that ears and I know I was darn lucky to have had six years of not working, although I will note that the first few of those years were before SH and I got married and when I was living off my savings and worrying that I would be a bag lady. I didn't want to be unemployed, but I was doing really stupid things in my job search and then I didn't interview right and I messed it all up. I am a good worker, but I am not a good job hunter. Then I started reading Ask a Manager and following her advice and voila! Eighty seven cover letters and four interviews later, I am employed. This despite a six-year gap on my resume. So I know it's not me, it's how I was doing it before.

Anyhow, my whining is that it's hard to do everything you want to do every day when you are away from home 11 hours a day. At my old job, I had enough tenure and I knew what I was doing enough that there were a few things I could do at work, but when you are new, you have to suss things out. Is it OK to check your eBay watch list while you're at work? I already got the Hand of Death for going to the public library site to see when my books were due. That's harsh - to track people who go to the library site, although you have to admire an organization where that has become enough of a problem that IT has to address it.

I don't need to violate the IT policies and find I am a top violater. At my old job, I was in the top 25 violaters one month. This, in a company of over 100,000 employees.


Because I kept going to sex sites.

As in, I was trying to figure out if I had a UTI. I didn't want to waste time going to the doctor if I didn't have to. Honestly. I was not going to porn sites. If I want naked women, I can see them at the locker room at the Y.


How do I get everything done now? When does the house get cleaned? Before, I did not have shedders in the house: no husband, no cats. My house did not get dirty. But now, it does need to be cleaned. I do not want to hire a maid because the purpose of my getting a job is to come out ahead on the money, not behind.

When do I cook? When do I do laundry? When do I goof off and read? When do I blog?

SH has been stellar. He has taken over the bedmaking and the cat-box cleaning and the trash taking out and the dishes, but he is starting a new project that is going to have him working even more hours than he works now. We might have to learn to live with a dirty house.


webb said...

You already know there is no answer to that. We all struggle with it. You find ways to not let things get so dirty, you eat simpler meals, and dine out more often. You simplify your wardrobe and use the dry cleaner, and you learn to accept lower standards. This may be difficult for SH.

Diedra B said...

you may need to hire help, and also use a slow cooker, a lot.

Jen on the Edge said...

Blitz cleaning and multi-tasking -- five minutes bursts of cleaning whenever you can manage it. Run the vacuum while you're waiting for the water to boil for pasta, wipe down counters while you're on the phone, etc.

John0 Juanderlust said...

While it does have its advantages, I still maintain that the dread Daily Job is, on balance, a highly overrated pastime.
ps: is that a robot screen or a sobriety test?

Highland Fashionista said...

I can feel your pain about the violator thing. I work for the NHS here in the UK, and half of the medical sites that I would use for my job are blocked. But the LIBRARY!? Seriously, employers should be happy that their employees are using the library. Surely renewing a library book isn't a violation, is it? Sheesh. And in agreement with other posters. Working full-time is a highly overrated activity. Were it not for financial gain, I would happily fritter my days away on the blog.

Rubiatonta said...

Get a cleaning person, even if but once a fortnight.

For everything else, prioritize and multi-task. I find that addressing the worst mess in the house makes the rest of it bearable even if I can't get to it right away.

I also agree with using the slow cooker a lot (or, alternatively, the pressure cooker). Can you get groceries delivered where you live? I have a busy friend (married, two jobs, two kids) in NJ who swears by Peapod for the stuff you don't need to think about, like TP and detergent and cereal. For the fresh stuff, she goes to her small local supermarket.

Kathy said...

I feel your pain. Am considering an every-other-week cleaning person, but the dog complicates this. I think we need to be adopted by a caring person who won't judge us too harshly.

Class factotum said...

I had a cleaning lady when I lived in Memphis. She came once every three weeks. But man - the purpose of this job is not for us to spend more money. It's a dilemma.

beyondbeige said...

Pay the money for a maid. Think about all those hours spent cleaning when you could be enjoying your life, family and friends. Working at a job and then working at home is too much WORK. Everyone needs play and relaxation.