Friday, December 14, 2012
Marriage 501, Lecture 34: Because I don't care about togetherness
We had an interesting discussion at work, which led to an interesting discussion on facebook, which led me, naturally, to Rome.
The question: What do you do if you are traveling with your spouse/SO/whomever and that person is offered an upgrade from coach to first or business class, an upgrade that would leave you back in coach?
I was surprised - really surprised - at the strength of emotion behind the responses.
I was also surprised at how wrong - I'm sorry, how diverse! - the other answers were.
Specifically, they all disagreed with me. At least, at work they disagreed with me.
As in, it would not fly at all for them to accept an upgrade if it meant the spouse had to remain in coach. Not because they cared that the spouse would be in coach alone but because said spouse would be furious.
"But my husband is six feet tall," I explained. "It's a lot more comfortable for him to be up front. I always tell him to take the upgrade if he is offered one."
A co-worker laughed. "I could be 100 feet tall and my wife wouldn't let me do that!"
Facebook friends were a little less diverse, with some maintaining that those who travel together should not be put asunder, but with more saying, "Heck yes - maximize the total comfort level of the group!" Those who were more in favor of taking the upgrade are those who travel extensively and who are eligible for upgrades.
I guess I am not a very good wife - I don't care about being together on the airplane. As long as I am not next to a space hogger - which I am not if I am next to SH and which I definitely am not if I am next to the seat SH has vacated, then I don't care. No smelly people, no armrest hogs, no talkers. Then I'm fine. I read my book and am happy to be left alone.
What do you guys think? If your spouse/SO is offered an upgrade and you are not, what do you do?