SH: You're not even thanking me for doing the dishes.
Me: That's because you're not doing them as a favor to me.
SH: Yes I am!
Me: No you're not. You're doing them because you don't like how I do dishes.
SH: OK. That's part of it.
Me: I told you so.
SH: And because you do all the cooking and I feel like I should participate. You're a good cook and you cook good food for me.
Me: Thank you.
SH: And I can't relax with all this mess. ["All this mess" includes one tupperware that had roasted butternut squash in it and the 8-quart pot I used to make black-eyed peas. And the wooden spoon. Four items. "All this mess."]
Me: Yeah. And because you don't want to pack for your work trip.
SH: But you could still thank me.
Me: Fine. Thank you.