SH: You don't care about togetherness!
Me: I just want to go to sleep.
SH: But you don't care if I come to bed with you or not.
SH: But why? It's togetherness!
Me: If we're just going to sleep, why does it matter if we are together in bed?
SH: But when you are married, you are supposed to lie sometimes and say you want to be together!