SH is 49.
I sent him this story.
It's about the age when men are most likely to cheat.
We have had many conversations about cheating. SH likes to go out. I do not. He likes people. I do not.
Wait. I like people. I just don't want to be around them all the time. Or even most of the time. I love having convenient virtual relationships online. I love facebook because I get to keep up with what everyone is doing and I do not have to go.
At my birthday, my sister went to Las Vegas with some friends. At first, I was all mad because I thought, "Hey! You're my sister and you should be inviting ME to Las Vegas!"
And then I realized, "Duh. She's my sister. She knows me. She loves me. She knows that the last thing I want to do is to
1. go to Las Vegas
2. with people
3. and stay up late."
I made some comment on her facebook posts about the trip and her response was something like, "Your birthday present is that I didn't invite you. Love you."
SH, however, likes being around people. He likes just hanging out. I like having a point. I want there to be a point and I want to get to it and then I want to go home.
I hate Going Out, as in going to a bar for no reason other than to go to a bar. Go to dinner with friends? I'm there. But just go to a bar? At random? To hang out?
Kill me now.
SH goes out alone. His friends have asked him if I am concerned that he might cheat.
A man - a person - who will cheat - will find the chance to cheat no matter when. SH would have a far easier time cheating during the day when I am at work. Sure, he could cheat at night, but that would involved planning and logistics.
But during the day, I am at work. He doesn't always have the car, but the Other Woman could come to our house.
"But if she is here," I said, "she has to clean the house and get supper ready."
And that, actually, would be fine with me.