Friday, June 12, 2015

Marriage 701, Lecture 764: The important things in a relationship

SH was gone for two weeks. He came home for 40 hours. He left again for two more weeks. He returned for a week.

He had not been home for more than four hours on the second time when he attended to the most important task a man can address when he sees his wife for the first time in a good long while.

A man who has spent four weeks in very stressful circumstances - at the home of his parents when they are having health problems and do not want to address any of the larger, looming issues like

1. they will both die some day
2. really - they are not going to be the only ones to get out of here alive
3. they have a hard time keeping up with the house - have to hire help for the garden and for cleaning
4. they have not updated their will since there was a major event requiring such

SH has been trying to convince them to move into assisted living ("but the place doesn't have a heated indoor pool!") or to hire help ("we tried, but her soup was bland"), but they will have none of it.

He has not gotten to sleep late because his mom and dad get up early and make no effort to be quiet when they do get up because they think SH should not be sleeping so darn late.

This is stressful, no?

So when a man comes home to his Penelope, who has been waiting faithfully for his return, and he wants to relax and enjoy the company of someone who does not criticize everything he does, what is the natural thing for him to do?

You got it.

Reconfigure the squeeze points on the toothpaste.


Cleo from Jersey said...

I'm assuming SH is an only child?! Sorry about that!

Class factotum said...

Cleo, he has two half brothers who, according to their father, are a "great disappointment."

webb said...
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Joy said...

Perhaps reconfiguring the squeeze points helps to release some of his stress?

Class factotum said...

Webb, I think perhaps your comment referred to another blog. :)