Friday, October 23, 2015
Marriage 801, Lecture 34: Working for The Man
How it worked before I got married:
Every January, I would sit down with my files and pull all the bills from the previous year - phone, utilities, credit card, insurance. I would keep the last statement in each category, the one that showed I was current with the account, and take the rest of the statements to work, where I would feed them into the shredder. I would feel a great sense of accomplishment. I like tidying things. I like discarding the past. I like eliminating clutter. (Except for investment statements and tax returns - those I keep.)
I controlled the amount of paper and clutter in my house and It Was Good. My house was clean and tidy and uncluttered and unpapered.
How it works now:
Every January, I open the file cabinet I had to buy once SH and I were married because there were more files.
I remove the previous year files from their folders and put them in a folder called "PY bills."
I take what was in the "PY bills" folder and put it in a plastic bag, then put that bag into a bin in the basement.
(In January 2015, I kept all the 2014 bills in the "PY bills" folder and put the 2013 bills in the bag.)
I ask SH if he would please consider getting rid of the old bills.
Remember, I am asking this of the man who moved his 1997 phone bills from California to his apartment in Milwaukee and then to our house. In 2008.
From the previous decade. From a house where he no longer lived. In a state where he no longer lived.
The man is a hard nut to crack.
For our anniversary this year, I pulled the bin from the basement.
I asked him to please check through the contents as I wanted to take everything to the shredding day at the library.
And he did it. (Which, frankly, he should not have had to do. Just the fact that 1. I told him it was old bills and 2. he has not had to go into that bin once since we moved into this house should be reason enough and I have to agree with my sister sometimes when she says, "I spent my whole adult life finding someone to marry only to discover that it is a lot easier to live alone" because I managed my financial life very well before I ever got married and I do not like having to discuss this kind of baloney. /Rant over)
And now all of these documents will be shredded.